Discernment
I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts, the Robcast, this week and Rob told a seemingly small story about leaving a party when he was ready to, and then accidentally forgetting his wife was still there. He called to let her know he would be waiting for her in the car when she was ready to go, and it turned out she had already left too. At the heart of his story, Rob is speaking about a deeper knowing and listening to yourself. In self-help and therapy communities, this thing gets talked about with many names: alignment, discernment, intuition, self-energy, synchronicity, divine timing. It’s the ability to truly tune into yourself and choose to listen without overriding your needs and desires due to obligation, people pleasing, societal norms, and the external pressures of the day.
Truly trusting our bodies’ intuition and decision making from this place is such a hard task. Our intuitive voice is not loud or big. It is easy enough to overlook and lots of us have had plenty of practice simply ignoring it for most of our lives. Early messages as simple as telling us to sit still in a classroom when our body wants to move or “don’t speak unless spoken to” quickly teach us to use our will and ego and that our inner voice can’t be trusted.
But unlearning is as important and sacred as learning. We have to undo the message that we cannot trust our impulses and our intuition so that we can step into our purpose, find safe and meaningful connections with others, and connect with phases in our lives. I am walking this journey towards discernment as we all are, and it is so damn hard! For me, the hardest thing for me to do is to discern the natural end of something, rather that’s a relationship, business transaction, or even a workout routine. I HATE saying goodbye, I HATE that I might miss out on something, and I HATE the uncomfortable feeling of trying something new. But when I practice the art of letting go, I allow space for growth and the new thing to take hold in my life. I’ve been proud of myself lately for practicing this hard art of letting go. It’s a small victory, but it’s such a feeling of peace and serenity when you fully trust yourself and follow that path, even when it means saying goodbye to something or someone you love.
This week, I invite you to bring gentle awareness to your inner voice. Create time to go inwards and truly listen. You might be surprised with the answers and wisdom you find there.
Peace and love to you wherever you find yourself on your journey,
Cassie
And here is a link for the wonderful Rob Bell and his podcast the Robcast: